tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post5396305078281844413..comments2023-10-25T10:11:18.105-04:00Comments on littleshika: September 20thJessicahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14124055364435672026noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-62026171800844792592007-09-22T16:14:00.000-04:002007-09-22T16:14:00.000-04:00Brooksie,Thank you for your comment. I agree with...Brooksie,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your comment. I agree with all of what you say, in most circumstances. I didn't go to the sit and sew just to be with my friends or to work on my project. I'm usually pretty good about having my priorities in order, and I put my mental and emotional health above most else, including my marriage. If I don't grieve and fall into depression, he and I will both suffer. If he doesn't grieve and take care of his mental/emotional health, we will both suffer. I feel that's the path we're heading towards now. He needs me to stay stable, and that's what I'm trying to do now. <BR/>if you would have left an email I would have replied privately. Thank you again for your comment, it's good to hear all sides.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14124055364435672026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-83447267741932694042007-09-22T13:28:00.000-04:002007-09-22T13:28:00.000-04:00Delurking to say: I love my friends dearly; they u...Delurking to say: I love my friends dearly; they understand stuff so well; I love sitting and working and talking with them.<BR/><BR/>But after 28 years of marriage I have to tell you: your marriage is forever -- for when you get old together. I know it's not popular to say this, but it takes a lot of sacrifice -- 80% on both sides!! :) but it's worth it -- you are each other's path to heaven. (And no fair trying to see if HE'S giving HIS 80% -- you can't know what that would be, can you?)<BR/><BR/>Husbands depend on wives more than they can ever say. If you can do this for him out of love, even if it means getting a bit behind on something you want to do, you will not regret it later, when you are old with him and your friends have gone on to other things. Even your super close friends have their priorities of family and, yes, gasp! duty. <BR/><BR/>Don't be afraid of the cost! Love conquers all. You didn't know it would mean this, did you? :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-85247054943042098572007-09-21T19:48:00.000-04:002007-09-21T19:48:00.000-04:00forgive me for delurking on such a personal post.....forgive me for delurking on such a personal post...<BR/><BR/>but here's thought: you'll be a better partner (later, and always) if you are given the time to do your grieving now, the way you need to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-83951245762087626062007-09-21T16:53:00.000-04:002007-09-21T16:53:00.000-04:00I thought I'd share this quilt with you. I made it...I thought I'd share this quilt with you. I made it for my friend Ann when her husband died suddenly.<BR/><BR/>http://www.flickr.com/photos/tirralirra/305444710/in/set-72057594048278302/Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037804717667251460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-36751273141106678172007-09-21T13:07:00.000-04:002007-09-21T13:07:00.000-04:00I totally understand the support the group offers ...I totally understand the support the group offers you - without even needing to say a word. It's a piece of normality when everything else is so raw. It is difficult to explain - but just keep trying. <BR/>The quilt you've designed looks great.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11462098424661748808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-39348062152678407942007-09-21T11:50:00.000-04:002007-09-21T11:50:00.000-04:00sigh. there's no good answers to the problem chic...sigh. there's no good answers to the problem chica. i wish there was. obviously grief guides tell you to do what you feel you need to do but you have the hard position of having a husband who's also in mourning. i'd guess that you both just need to do what you each need to do right now and hopefully he can come to an understanding about this process. maybe there can be a compromise where you do what you need to this week, having gotten the quilt "all ready to go" in terms of picking fabrics etc and another time you will forgo something you want when he says he needs you. sorry. happy friday. i'm feeling a bit weepy today, and it's not a good day for that to be happening as i am soooo busy and can't keep running out to my car to get a hold on myself. sigh. i'll get there. so i'm taking a deep breath whew. happy friday. love youAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-31525024299399394602007-09-21T00:51:00.000-04:002007-09-21T00:51:00.000-04:00I also like the colors you chose for the quilt. T...I also like the colors you chose for the quilt. The edge pieces remind me of butterfly wings. I know what you mean about wanting to sew with others in order to find calm and peace. I do the same thing when I am feeling stress or sadness. After a tiring summer, it brought me a lot of joy to catch up with my quilting group friends and see several amazing quilt shows in Tokyo this past month. <BR/><BR/>The way you choose to cope now will undoubtedly bring you back, closer, to your husband.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26428396.post-65979423599545503252007-09-20T22:10:00.000-04:002007-09-20T22:10:00.000-04:00I really like your colour choices for your grief q...I really like your colour choices for your grief quilt. Blue and green have a particular attraction for me. They are lively, but soothing. They connect with the trees and sky of the natural world, and the cyclic processes of nature. Very healing. <BR/><BR/>Wishing you all good things in your current journey.Gillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14037804717667251460noreply@blogger.com